How to Quit Evaluating Yourself Against Others

Simply + Fiercely

As I got older, there was so much more to worry about—my car, my career, my home, and even my relationships. I couldn’t stop measuring my life against others, and somehow I always came up short.

The result was a deep sense of “not-enoughness” that stayed with me until my early thirties. It was only then that I learned to stop comparing myself to others.

Instead, I began to turn my attention inwards, using my own dreams and values as a measuring stick for success.

A final strategy that goes hand in hand with gratitude is increasing your self-worth. This is about going the extra mile beyond feeling like you HAVE enough to knowing that you ARE enough.

DEVELOP YOUR SELF-WORTH

When you appreciate what you already have, life feels joyful and abundant. We can admire and celebrate with others because we know that we already have more than enough.

PRACTICE GRATITUDE

I certainly believe these are powerful tools but I’m mindful that sometimes, it’s better to avoid comparisons altogether. After all, we can’t always use logic to combat our feelings.

KNOW YOUR TRIGGERS

This isn’t about passing judgement. Instead, it’s about creating awareness. Often we want what someone else has, but we don’t want to make the same sacrifices.

ACKNOWLEDGE THE TRADEOFFS

This is helpful because it creates perspective and clarity. When you decide what matters, you’re effectively deciding what doesn’t matter as well.

WRITE YOUR OWN DEFINITION OF SUCCESS

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