This is a post about simple living that I’ve been thinking about writing for a long time but I wasn’t sure how to approach it—so I’ve finally decided to just tackle it head-on.
As simple living has become mainstream (or at least more popular), there are some myths/misunderstandings that are becoming prevalent.
I don’t think anyone in the simple living community is being intentionally misleading or saying anything that’s untrue but without a doubt, many of us (yes—myself included) are contributing to the confusion.
Whether we’re actually selling any real products or not, most of us are “selling” simple living as a solution to many of life’s problems—and while I truly believe it can be life-changing, it’s also important to understand there are limits and that filling a few trash bags with stuff won’t magically change your life overnight.
So with that in mind, I hope this post will offer a balanced view of not just the wonders but also the limitations of simple living.
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3 HARD TRUTHS ABOUT SIMPLE LIVING
1. OWNING LESS WON’T MAGICALLY SOLVE ALL YOUR PROBLEMS
A few weeks ago, there was a discussion in the Simply + Fiercely Facebook group about an article in the New York Times that explores some of the challenges people face when trying to apply the principles of minimalism to their daily lives.
You can check out the full article here, but this bit, in particular, stood out to me:
“Minimalism sure does suck you in,” she said. “Life looks easier. It seems like your skin will be dewier and your hair shinier — a happier, healthier version of yourself.”
It’s tongue in cheek but I understand the point. When I first started to experiment with minimalism and simple living, this is how I felt too. I really wanted to believe that getting rid of my stuff was going to magically solve all my problems.
Of course, deep down we already know this isn’t true, but I think it’s worth addressing because we want to believe it—or at least I did! After all, it was such a neat and tidy solution to my complicated problems.
Unfortunately, the hard truth I learned is you don’t declutter your problems the same way you declutter your old sweatshirts or high school yearbooks.
Owning less does feel good and it can spark real, meaningful change but it doesn’t automatically happen as your things go out the door. You have to be open and willing to take what you learn about “stuff” and apply it to other areas of your life.
Decluttering taught me to think about my values and to make more intentional decisions about the things I owned, so when I was faced with big decisions (like ending a long-term relationship) I knew how to think mindfully about what I wanted in my life.
Simple living empowered me but I still had to do the hard work.
The other gift of owning less is having more resources (such as time, energy and money) to tackle your problems head-on but again, there’s work to be done.
I was in debt before I started decluttering and I was still in debt afterwards—but becoming comfortable with owning less made additional funds available for extra payments (since I wasn’t shopping every weekend like I used to do!).
Owning less also created more time in my schedule—the little things like less cleaning and less time spent deciding what to wear add up—so I was also able to pick up extra hours at work.
I became debt-free eventually but there was definitely nothing “magical” about the process!
So in summary, owning less can definitely help you with your problems but only if you’re willing to take the next step. There is a lot of learning, experimenting and growing involved and it’s anything but simple!
2. SIMPLE LIVING DOESN’T MEAN YOU’RE NEVER STRESSED OR BUSY
Trust me—I wish simple living really did banish stress and busyness from life, but unfortunately, it’s just not the case.
You can declutter, unsubscribe and say “no” all day every day but it doesn’t matter how much you simplify—the hard truth is you’ll still occasionally have busy, stressful days where you’d rather hide in bed than face the world.
There will always be dishes to wash, taxes to file, children to feed and hearts to mend; it’s an unavoidable part of the human experience and simple living doesn’t shield you from it.
Or as Susan David puts it in her amazing TED Talk on the power of emotional courage:
Only dead people never get stressed, never get broken hearts, never experience the disappointment that comes with failure. Tough emotions are part of our contract with life. You don’t get to have a meaningful career or raise a family or leave the world a better place without stress and discomfort. Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.
What simple living does mean is that busy and stressed is not my default mode.
Instead, I can recognise that there are seasons in my life. Sometimes I’m doing work that’s important to me and I’m willing to make sacrifices to get it done—but I’ve learned how to be mindful of “busy”.
I’m not afraid to press pause regularly or to audit how I spent my time, money and energy to make sure I’m investing in what’s most important to me. Simple living has taught me to step off the treadmill when I need to.
If you want to read a great example of this in action, check out this blog post by Cait Flanders. She talks about being busy after the release of her new book and how she was able to recognise when it was time for a change of pace.
3. THERE IS NEVER A FINISH LINE WITH SIMPLE LIVING
Finally, I often hear people talk about simplifying their lives as if there’s a finish line to cross—an imaginary point in time where simplicity is achieved—but the hard truth is you’ll never be “done” simplifying your life.
Simple living is not a task you can check off of your to-do list. Instead, it’s a way of living where the things we own and do represent our values and priorities.
Because we’ll always be presented with new opportunities (and new demands to go with them) there will always be decisions to be made about what does or doesn’t belong in our lives.
The more you practice, the easier it gets to make these decisions but they never go away. And realistically? You’ll make some wrong decisions too. I’ve had a capsule wardrobe since 2013 but I still review it at least once a year—and I almost always realise a few things I shouldn’t own have snuck into my closet.
Same goes with my schedule; despite my best efforts, there are still times I realise I’ve said “yes” to something I should have said “no” to.
The other thing to consider is that our values and priorities can shift with time and you may need to rethink what matters most to you. The decisions you made a few years ago may no longer feel right and you’ll have to start all over again.
This isn’t to say that your life won’t get simpler with time! It’s just a reminder that a simple, intentional life is a way of life and not a destination. It’s rarely easy but almost always worth it.
SIMPLE LIVING RESOURCES
These are some of the “hard truths” about simple living and minimalism—but of course, this doesn’t mean these aren’t lifestyles worth pursuing!
If you’d like to learn more about simple living and minimalism, here are some resources to help you.
First and foremost, I invite you to get your free copy of Mindful Decluttering by subscribing below. It’s a guide and workbook with practical advice, personal stories, and a troubleshooting guide to help you overcome your decluttering challenges!
In addition, here are some of my most popular blog posts on the topics of simple living and minimalism.
- Simple Living (Back to Basics)
- 20 Ways I’ve Simplified My Life
- Simple Eating: How I Learned to Save Money, Reduce Stress + Spend Less Time in the Kitchen
- Minimalism Do’s + Don’ts
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