An Intro to Intentional Living: 7 Things You Need to Know

It seems like everybody is talking about intentional living lately, but what the heck does it really mean? And why does it matter?

I’m so glad you asked.

You see, I’m kind of passionate about intentional living, ever since I ‘discovered’ it a few years back and it changed my life. 

Anyway, here’s my quick story. I spent most of my twenties, like most women, busy living my life – going to school, building career(s), paying off a mortgage. (I travelled too, but I promise – most of my time was spent in the daily grind.)

I was so busy in fact, that I never took the time to actively decide what I wanted out of life.

Did I need to own a house? Did I like being married? What did I want to do with my life?

I had no idea. I wasn’t asking these question. I was focused on just getting through the week.

How could I get through another boring day at the office? Did I have enough in the bank to pay the mortgage? When would I get caught up on my sleep?

I daydreamed about being somewhere else (hello palm trees and cocktails) but I never really thought about doing something else – at least not very often. It felt uncomfortable.

It was easier to make life decisions based on what I saw around me (ie: what everyone else was doing) and to let the momentum of these choices drag me through life.

Days rolled into weeks, weeks rolled into years. Blah. Blah. Blah.

Until I discovered intentional living. Here’s what you need to know.

It seems like everybody is talking about intentional living lately, but what the heck does it really mean? And why does it matter?  I’m so glad you asked.

INTENTIONAL LIVING IS ABOUT EXAMINING YOUR ‘WHY’

Intentional living is asking yourself why you do things – and being happy with the answers.

Here are just a few questions to consider.

  • Why are your friends your friends?
  • Why did you buy [insert your latest purchase]?
  • Why did you choose your career/job?
  • Why are you with your partner?
  • Why are you working late?

Now, how do your answers make you feel? Do they make sense? Or are they confusing/conflicting? Did you struggle to answer some of these questions?

Living with intention means closely examining these answers and if you’re not happy with what you see, re-examining your choices.

RELATED POST: 4 Creative Exercises to Inspire Intentional Living

IT’S NOT ABOUT HAVING EVERYTHING FIGURED OUT

Intentional living doesn’t mean you have to have your whole life figured out.

But it DOES mean is having a purpose behind your actions.

Consider the following two statements:

“I’m taking a creative writing class because I want to write the Great American novel before I’m thirty.”

“I’m taking a creative writing class because I feel inspired when I’m exploring my creativity and I’m considering writing a book one day.”

These are both examples of intentional living – even though the first person probably has a ten-year plan and the second person is still deciding what to make for dinner (don’t be offended – I’m in that boat too!)

Know that you can choose to be intentional about your direction without knowing your final destination.

EVERYTHING STARTS WITH YOUR CORE VALUES

You know that whole ‘direction/destination thing’ you just read?

Your core values are how you choose your direction.

You don’t need to have your whole life figured out, but you DO need to know what matters most to you.

Everyone’s core values are different. Mine include care for myself, care for my relationships, lifelong learning, and freedom (just to name a few.)

If you have no idea what your core values are, start by thinking of moments when you’ve felt proud or happy and dig around. Generally, we feel good when we are living and acting in line with our values and we feel bad when we violate our values.

When you know your core values, you can make sure the life you’re living on the outside matches what your heart is saying on the inside.

NEXT, ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY

A huge part of intentional living is accepting that you have the power to make choices.

This is where I was stuck for a long time. I wasn’t ready to make hard choices; staying stuck was easier (at least in the short term.)

It’s easy to say things like –

  • Life isn’t supposed to be fun.
  • This is just the way things are.
  • I’m ‘adulting’ – this is what ‘being a grown-up’ is supposed to mean.

– and to then use these one-liners as excuses to live an ordinary life.

It’s difficult to acknowledge that there are other options, really awesome options actually, but it means doing hard work, facing criticism and making tough choices.

It seems like everybody is talking about intentional living lately, but what the heck does it really mean? And why does it matter?  I’m so glad you asked.

MAKE SMALL, REPEATED DECISIONS

Intentional living is about making the decision every day to live the life you want most.

For example, if you want to be an artist, you can make a big sweeping decision to go to art school.

But this won’t make you an artist. This act, on its own, will not change the course of your life.

You’ll become an artist by picking up a paintbrush, or a sketchbook, and making art every day (even if it sucks.)

Intentional living is deciding to go for a run. Or to bring a packed lunch. Or to say ‘no’ to a disposable coffee cups. Or to spend 10 minutes with your children without distractions.

It’s asking yourself, every day, “what can I do today that will point me in the direction of my dreams?”

KNOW THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG ANSWER

“Intentional Living does not have a moral compass.” – The Finance Girl

Intentional living is about being honest and doing what feels right to you. There is no right or wrong answer.

Related Post: 7 Questions to Inspire Intentional Living

INTENTIONAL LIVING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS

There is a popular urban myth in Australia about the Sydney Harbour Bridge – when the painters on the Sydney Harbour Bridge get to the end, they go back to the beginning and start all over again.

Unfortunately, this isn’t true, which is a shame, because it’s a great analogy for intentional living.

There is no finish line. Living with intention means being in constant communication with yourself, deciding what’s working (and what’s not) and making small adjustments every day.

It’s hard work but it’s the best kind – creating a life you truly love.

FREE INTENTIONAL LIVING CHALLENGE

If you want to take the next step towards intentional living, then I invite you to join my free challenge!

Stop living on auto-pilot and start living on purpose.

Click here to join (it’s free!) or to learn more.

How do you feel about your ‘why’? Are you ready for a change in direction or are you happy where you’re going? (Maybe it’s just about those daily decisions now!) How are you living with intention today? Let me know in the comments! x

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Author: Jennifer

Hello there! I'm Jennifer and welcome to Simply + Fiercely, a community of people striving to live simpler, more intentional lives. As a former shopaholic and workaholic, I know how it feels to live a life that doesn't feel true to what's in your heart. Fortunately, I've transformed my life and gone from feeling cluttered and confused to living a curated life filled with purpose and joy. Now I'm here to help you do the same. 👉🏻 Click here to get started!