Do you ever feel like you can’t stop shopping? If so, you’re not alone. Here’s what I’ve learned about mindless shopping and how to break the habit.
As I walked through the front door, I took a deep breath and felt a sense of ease wash over me. There’s just something about department stores—don’t you think?
They know what they’re doing when they put the perfume counters near the front. The smell, the lighting, the music … it hits you all at once and it feels like magic.
Or at least, I used to think so.
Things are very different now but for more than a decade, I was a shopaholic. Shoes, handbags, clothes, homewares—you name it! I was in the shops at least five times a week so trust me, I know just how difficult it can be to change your shopping habits.
But the good news is it CAN be done. After years of struggle, I learned how to turn my life around and it all started with understanding the “why” behind my shopping addiction.
Here are four reasons why you can’t stop shopping and what to do about it.
Please note that the following advice is based on my experience as a self-diagnosed shopaholic. I am not a mental health professional and I encourage you to seek out professional advice if you need it.
Why You Can’t Stop Shopping
YOU’RE ESCAPING FROM SOMETHING
If you’re reading this, then you’ve probably experienced a “shopper’s high” firsthand. There’s an adrenaline rush, especially when you find a bargain. It feels good … and it’s a great way to escape from your everyday life.
A job you hate, a bad relationship, or a mess waiting for you at home. We all have things we want to avoid and what better way than by shopping?
It’s OK to do every once in a while but if you genuinely can’t stop shopping, you have to ask yourself if it’s become a coping mechanism. You end up buying a lot of stuff that you don’t need and—perhaps more importantly—you avoid dealing with your problems.
It might protect you from pain in the short-term but in the long-term, you could end up wasting years living a life half-lived. I know this firsthand because I used shopping, clutter and busyness to hide from my own problems for longer than I’d like to admit!
Don’t make this mistake for any longer than necessary. Stop now because life is too short.
YOU ARE SURROUNDED BY SHOPPERS
The other day, Facebook reminded me of a post I shared almost a decade ago. It was a meme that read: “Life is short. Buy the shoes!”
I laughed at first until I thought about my old shoe collection (100+ pairs!) and all the hard-earned money I’ve wasted. Suddenly it seemed a lot less funny—but still, it was an important reminder.
For most of us, shopping is a big part of our culture. We see our friends and family shopping all the time, and then there’s what we see online (which is often even worse).
From social media influencers showing off “haul” videos to celebrities who never wear the same thing twice … we’re surrounded by people who normalise shopping.
Our own shopping habits seem harmless in comparison but by who’s standards? Make sure your actions are guided by your own beliefs and not by others.
YOU AREN’T COMFORTABLE WITH WHO YOU ARE
This is a big one, my friends.
Every time you shop, you aren’t really buying “stuff”. Instead, you’re buying a story.
Think about it—you don’t really want new mascara, do you? Instead, what you’re really buying is the promise of longer, thicker lashes. You aren’t comfortable with what you see in the mirror so you buy something new, hoping it will make you feel better about yourself.
Now obviously, not everyone who buys mascara has a problem with shopping! But if you genuinely can’t stop buying more, you should definitely ask yourself if a lack of self-worth is fueling your purchases.
I say this with compassion because I struggled with self-acceptance for a long time. I didn’t like who I was so I tried to hide behind designer dresses and stiletto heels … but in the end, all I was left with was an empty bank account and sore feet.
YOU DON’T REALISE HOW MUCH YOU SPEND + WHAT IT’S COSTING YOU
Shopping is something I used to do mindlessly and out of habit. I did it on my lunch break, on my way home from work, and from my laptop in the evenings.
I did it so often that it wasn’t a special event anymore. I wasn’t aware of how often I shopped and even scarier, I didn’t know how much I was spending. I could pay my bills at the end of the month and in my mind, that was good enough.
But was it really? Looking back, I know now that I’ve spent tens of thousands of dollars on things I can’t even remember buying.
That’s a lot of money for anyone but it’s even more painful when I think about what that money represents:
- Hours of my life wasted in unfulfilling jobs
- Missed opportunities (trips and experiences I couldn’t afford)
- Environmental waste (“stuff” costs more than just money)
Plus there’s a human cost. I claim to be a compassionate person but who could I have helped with that money?
$20 spent on cheap t-shirts … or $20 donated to the local foodbank?
Ultimately, these decisions are personal but the real question is what are your purchases costing YOU. If you can’t stop shopping then odds are, you don’t know how to answer this question.
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- How to Stop Buying Clothes You Never Wear
- How to Be Happy With What You Have + Stop Wanting More
- How Minimalism Helped Me Become Debt Free
- How to be a Minimalist: 5 Things Not to Do + What to Do Instead
What are your biggest challenges when it comes to shopping? Do you have any advice for someone trying to stop? Let us know in the comments!