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How to Stop Buying Clothes You Never Wear

Is one of your new year’s goals to stop buying clothes that you never wear? If so, then I’ve got some tips that I hope will help you! 

Everything I’m about to share comes from personal experience. For more than a decade, I was a problem shopper and I’ve honestly wasted tens of thousands of dollars on clothes that never made it out of my closet. (Ouch!

It’s a hard pill to swallow so I try not to focus on the mistakes that I’ve made and instead, I think about the lessons that I’ve learned. 

It’s been a long journey but I’m grateful for everything life has taught me about why we shop and how to change our habits—and today, I’m sharing it all with you. Let’s get started!

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Why You Keep Buying Clothes You Never Wear

Before we can talk about how to stop a bad habit, we need to begin by creating awareness around why it happens in the first place. After all, you can’t solve a problem if you don’t know what’s causing it! 

With that said, here are the top three reasons why you keep buying clothes you never wear.


As a former shopaholic, I can say with confidence that the number one reason people make bad purchases is that they use shopping to satisfy an emotional need.

We’ve all heard of retail therapy, right? If you’re having a bad day, buy something new and you’ll feel better … at least for a little while. (In the long term, it will probably lead to negative feelings of guilt and regret but there’s no denying the short term pleasure of buying something new.) 

But let’s take a deeper look at why this happens. 

I’d argue that emotional purchases are usually fuelled by something more than just a “bad day”. Instead, I believe they’re often rooted in insecurity—we feel lacking in some way so we buy something new thinking it will somehow fill a void. 

This is especially true with clothing because when we buy new clothes, it can feel like we’re putting on a suit of armour—it’s a way of protecting ourselves when we feel vulnerable. Here are some examples:

  • Feeling insecure about your weight? Buy something “slimming”. 
  • Feeling insecure about your career? Buy something expensive so people know that you’re “successful”. 
  • Feeling insecure about your appearance? Buy 4-inch stiletto heels (ahem … this was my personal vice for years). 

Buying new things when we feel bad about ourselves might seem like a way to “fake it until you make it” … but realistically, when we buy clothing that doesn’t represent who we really are, it doesn’t get worn. Frequent emotional shopping is a quick way to end up with a closet full of clothes that you never wear!


Another common problem is confusion about your personal style—and this is another lesson I had to learn the hard way! What I realised is that there can be a huge difference between the styles you admire and the styles you actually enjoy wearing

For example, I adore vintage dresses (especially 40’s style tea dresses) and I used to have a huge collection of them. In fact, YEARS ago I nearly created a fashion blog dedicated to them! I loved to look at them hanging in my closet … but at the end of the day, I rarely wore them. 

At the time, this really confused me because I genuinely loved the style but when I went to get dressed, I always found myself reaching for neutrals and basics instead. Things like jeans, tank tops and t-shirt dresses were in high rotation and my beautiful vintage dresses remained in the back of my closet. 

What I eventually realised is that what I like looking at and what I like wearing aren’t always the same thing. Think of it this way—you can go to a museum and admire the art but not necessarily want it hanging in your own home, right? The same applies to our closets too.


Finally, another reason why we end up with clothes we don’t wear is because we let other people influence our purchases. 

This can take many forms. Sometimes it’s as simple as buying a certain style because it’s what all your friends love. After all, shopping can be a really social activity and it’s easy to get caught up in the moment! 

Other times, it’s a bit more complicated. 

There’s no denying that TV, magazines and social media can also influence us. When you see your favourite Instagrammer wearing a gorgeous dress and drinking cocktails by the pool, sometimes it’s hard not to buy into the fantasy. You want the dress because you want the life they’re portraying—even if it doesn’t suit your personal style. 

Retailers try to influence you by creating a similar fantasy in stores too. Everything from the music they play to the shop displays—or even how a store smells—is carefully curated.

It’s all about so much more than selling you clothes. Instead, they’re trying to sell you a lifestyle … and if they’re successful, you end up buying clothes that might not suit who you really are.

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How to Stop Buying Clothes You Never Wear

OK, now that we’ve talked about why you keep buying clothes you never wear, let’s look at some techniques that will help you change your shopping behaviour.


My number one tip is to recognise your shopping triggers. Observe yourself for a few weeks—what happens in the moments immediately before you feel the desire to shop? 

  • Did someone upset you? 
  • Are you procrastinating doing a difficult task?
  • Did you walk by a favourite shop? 
  • Are you comparing yourself to someone on the internet?

If your urge to buy new clothes is inspired by anything other than an intentional choice to add to your wardrobe, then odds are you’re going to make bad decisions. You’re not in the right headspace so you’ll be easily influenced by sales, shop displays, and “helpful” sales associates. 

It’s a much better idea to walk away and shop at another time but in order to do this, you need to catch yourself in the act. This is why investing time and energy into recognising your shopping triggers is absolutely essential.

Related Post: How to Stop Online Shopping (Tips From a Former Shopaholic)


My next tip is to do a wardrobe audit. This is to help you understand your true personal style—what do you actually like wearing? 

Note that this is different to asking yourself “what styles do you want to wear?” I’m not a fan of this question because if you were good at answering it, you wouldn’t need this blog post! 

Instead, I encourage you to reflect on your existing closet and ask yourself what’s the difference between the clothes you wear all the time and the the clothes you don’t. 

Use this information to make better shopping decisions moving forward. Buy more of what you genuinely like wearing and stop buying everything else. 

I know this sounds simple but I’ve worked with so many women who get this wrong and I’ve also made this mistake myself more times than I can remember. If you want to stop buying clothes that you never wear then don’t skip this step!


My final tip is a “two for one” deal! Stop making impulse purchases by learning to pause before you buy—and an easy way to do this is to plan to shop. 

Again, let’s break this down further. 

Pressing “pause” means putting some space (time) between the impulse to shop and the actual purchase. There are two major reasons for doing this. 

First, it will help you avoid making impulsive, emotional decisions. If you’re shopping out of anger, frustration, or insecurity… well, these feelings fade with time. Sometimes we just need to blow off steam or invest in self-care, and once we do the desire to shop disappears. 

Time also helps reduce the impact of outside influences. It gives you an opportunity to reconnect with who you are and what you want most, so you can make more intentional decisions

Even a little pause—five or ten minutes—will help but if you really want to stop buying clothes that you never wear then I encourage you to take things a step further. 

Find a rhythm that works for you (once every few months or once a season) and plan to shop. 

Take your time making a list, reflecting on your wardrobe audit, and doing your research. I can almost guarantee this one simple habit will help you make better clothing purchases moving forward.

Want to Create a Minimalist Wardrobe?

If you’re interested in buying less clothes, then there’s a good chance that you’re interested in decluttering your closet and creating a minimalist wardrobe too. If this is the case, then here are a few resources you might find helpful:

Do you find it hard to stop buying clothes? If so, what do you struggle with the most? Alternatively, do you have a shopping tip you’d like to share? Let us know in the comments! x

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16 thoughts on “How to Stop Buying Clothes You Never Wear”

  1. A nearby thrift store has clothing for a quarter every Sunday. That is really hard to resist. The clothes are in good shape and great labels. So hard to not go on Sundays and end up spending $20 for a huge pile of beautiful clothes.

  2. I came across your blog tonite. I’m a compulsive shopper. However, I’ve realized at 53 a few things over my decades of experience. I hate wearing dresses. Yet I continue to buy them because everyone else looks so cute and casual in dresses. But they’re not ME. Also, at my age, when I put a piece of clothing on, if you contemplate, “ya it kind of looks good”. Or “maybe, if I did this” I’d really love it – DON’T BUY IT! At my age, when I try on a piece of clothing I know immediately whether or not I like it.You get that “feeling”. You either know it it looks good on you or not. If you have to think about it even a little bit, than don’t buy it. Every piece you try on should make you feel wonderful and like dynamite. Otherwise don’t waste your money. It will just sit in your closet.

  3. Thank you so much for this incredibly helpful post. I have struggled my whole life with addictions ( drugs/alcohol ). When I freed myself of those demons I promptly started my -had no clue it was a thing- shopping addiction. I too have literally 1000’s of dollars of clothes that I rarely wear. I’ve purchased jeans that were 650.00 and I actually knew in my heart that they probably wouldn’t fit, but I was just in love with the look. And no, they did not fit and un-returnable. I just couldn’t stop myself. I kinda knew it’s a psychiatric hiccup in my brain but was unsure how to tackle this problem. This article was incredibly helpful and I thank you. Since reading this, I have cancelled an item I bought yesterday and saved myself 250 bucks❤️ Thank you!

  4. I would shop and not wear my clothing because I didn’t feel worthy. My husband realized what was going on and had a really good talk with me. I am now proud to say I am wearing my clothing!! I have all new clothing from the last three years. I don’t buy trends so I’m not sure what needs to go. I have decided i will go thru my clothes but it will take me quit some time because I am disabled. Hopefully my girl friend will help me like she said but that will be later because she’s having surgery soon. I’m just trying to be patient. I am having to take my summer clothing out of plastic totes because my fall/ winter clothing is in my closet. Thank goodness my husband is so patient with me. Now I just have to stop buying!!!

  5. I have tons of gorgeous clothes, but I only buy stuff if I know I ‘ll wear them. I am very slender and can’t gain weight. (Nobody ever empathizes with me. It’s no fun. Now I’m getting rid of my beautiful stuff ’cause it’s too big.) Buy what you love, but wear it anywhere. After all that’s why you bought it!

  6. I also was justifying buying too many clothes .oh I’m going to lose weight .Or pre-need IT’S going to get hot or cold.layering.now I do have bags and bags of clothes in overstuffed closets.Your. article sure helped define. Why .Thank you so much.

  7. This article was on point. I definitely used shopping as an aspirational thing, whilst ignoring my own style/body type. I still find it tricky to find classic clothes for my petite, yet curvy figure that are flattering yet not sexualizing. So many styles out there are great for long/straight bodies, but so few companies offer petite sizes of contemporary clothes.

  8. I’m struggling- I resonate with everything in the blog … I understand what I need to do but I just can’t seem to be ruthless enough and part with clothing and shoes I will NEVER wear! I feel a real sense of loss (and maybe even a bit of panic that I might need the item in the future) when I get rid of an unworn item …. it feels like I am losing a bit of ME!

    • I found this genius blog today and am fascinated by the excellent advice.

      I am only speaking for myself and don’t have any criticism for others, but un the last two months I went though all my clothing and did a huge purge of clothing, shoes and boots. About 90% was NWT’S or NIB. I was disgusted with myself for all the wasteful spending. I told myself it was selfish for me to hang onto things that didn’t fit, weren’t really my style or simply a “what was I thinking” purchase. I am sure I gave away over a hundred items and I only missed one article of clothing.
      I didn’t start in January, but I am going to make a very serious effort to not buy any clothing for myself for the rest of the year.
      My energy will go towards healthy eating, losing the weight I gained the last two years and wearing some of the nice clothing I kept from my clear out.
      All the best to everyone and thanks for this blog.

    • This I can relate to completely. Maybe I can make use later , or will need it later when I either lose weight or end up gaining again. I have different sizes and items in different sizes . Did you ever get past this?

  9. Hi Jennifer,

    I was the person that would buy clothing because they were cute, instyle or, like you, vintage style. And then they sat on the hangers – forever. Some even still had tags when I finally gave them away. It took me probably 20 years to realize I needed to shop for my taste and body style. Then my wardrobe shrank and I was able to enjoy all my clothes.

    Great article and I know some people I should share it with. 🙂


  10. Thanks for these great reminders! I am trying a no shop January, then see how long I can take it. I had my first temptation on Friday after my first week back to work. Shopping feels like a reward for hard work, but remembering my goal stopped me.


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