Are you wondering how to be a minimalist? Perhaps you’re just getting started with the minimalist lifestyle, but you’re not sure what to do first.
Don’t worry! I’ve been there too, and I remember exactly how overwhelming it was when I first got started with minimalism. I was so excited because I knew that minimalism had the potential to change my life … but where to begin?
After all, as a former shopaholic and workaholic, my life was one big cluttered mess. I was already so busy, and decluttering just seemed like another item on my already overwhelming to-do list.
Can you relate?
If so, keep reading. The good news is I’ve been a minimalist for close to a decade now, and I’ve learned A LOT along the way! Here are some of my top tips and resources to help you get started with minimalism.
Why Minimalism? Reasons to Become a Minimalist
I’m going to be sharing lots of practical minimalist lifestyle tips in just a moment, but before we dive in, it’s really important to look at the reasons why you want to become a minimalist. In my experience, clarity is the first step to success. The more you understand what being a minimalist means for you, the easier it is to stay motivated.
I know this because I made this mistake myself when I first got started. I had this vague idea that minimalism was going to make my life magically better (spoiler alert: it doesn’t work that way) but I couldn’t visualise the details. As a result, I never fully committed.
“Become a minimalist” existed in the same basket as “be productive” or “get healthy”βand I think we all know how that goes, right?
What eventually helped me (and what I recommend you try) is to get really specific about your minimalist goals. Do you want to spend less time cleaning? Do you want to save money? Do you want to downsize to a smaller home?
There are no right or wrong answers, but I promise that getting clear on why you want to become a minimalist is the foundation of becoming a minimalist.
So, take a few minutes to reflect on your why and what you hope to achieve. And if you need help, here are some articles to inspire you:
- How Minimalism Helped Me Become Debt Free
- Why Minimalism? 5 Powerful Benefits of the Minimalist Lifestyle
- How Minimalism Has Influenced My Career
- How Minimalism Saves Money and Improved My Financial Life
How Do I Start Becoming a Minimalist?
Ok, so now you have your why, and you’re feeling motivated (woohoo!). What’s next?
For most people, it’s declutteringβand we’ll get there, I promise. Trust me; I have a LOT to say on the topic! But first, there’s something very important I want to share about what it means to become a minimalist.
Minimalism is less about what you own and more about why you own it. Decluttering your home doesn’t make you a “minimalist”. It’s not a race, and there’s not some finish line that you cross and then magically become a minimalist.
This means that even if you don’t have the time or resources to fully declutter right now, you can still start your minimalist journey simply by changing the way you make decisions.
Practice this: every time you’re tempted to bring something new into your life (from a new shirt to a new hobby), ask yourselfβhow does this align with my values and priorities? Will this bring me closer or further from the life I want most?
I firmly believe that the simple act of asking these questions sets you on the path to minimalist living and teaches you the skills you’ll need when you eventually get around to decluttering.
RECOMMENDED READING: Learn more about what it means to be a minimalist.
How To Be a Minimalist (Learn from My Mistakes!)
As I mentioned earlier, I’ve been a minimalist for over a decade, which means I’ve had a lot of time to make all the mistakes! So let’s kick things off by talking about a few things NOT to do when youβre getting started with minimalism.
Let’s get things started by talking about a few things NOT to do when you’re getting started with minimalism.
These are mistakes that I’ve seen people make time and time again, and I’m pointing them out to save you time, energy and even moneyβnot to pass judgement! It took me several years to go from deciding to be a minimalist to actually making meaningful changes in my life, but it doesn’t have to be that way if you follow these tips.
1. Just startβthere will never be a better time than today
There are usually two reasons why people procrastinate getting started with minimalism.
First, they struggle to commit to being a minimalist because they aren’t sure they can commit to the “rules”. For example, one thing that held me back from getting started with minimalism was my false belief that it was an “all or nothing” lifestyle.
I’d search online for articles on how to be a minimalist, and all I found were stories of people who owned 100 things or lived in tiny homes. (There’s a lot more variety in minimalist stories available now, but less so a decade ago.)
I was fascinated when I read these stories and intrigued by the freedom that comes with living with less. But at the same time, I knew I was never going to be like the people I read about online. I was always going to keep some sentimental items; I like having a few knickknacks, and I was never going to get by with just one pair of shoes!
But after a few years, I came to realise that there is only one rule when it comes to minimalism: you must be intentional about what you allow into your life.
The goal of minimalism is to align the “things” in your life (your physical stuff, your commitments, and even your relationships) with your what matters most to YOU.
This means that minimalism looks like different things to different people. As long as youβre being honest with yourself about what adds value or brings joy to your life, then you’re a minimalist.
Your version of minimalism might not look like my version of minimalismβand that’s ok.
The second reason people struggle to get started with minimalism is they think they don’t have enough time. After all, most people want to become a minimalist because their lives are busy and cluttered in the first place!
But here’s the thing I had to learn (and perhaps you too): you don’t change a lifetime of habits overnight. There is no shame in starting small. You don’t have to clutter your entire house over one weekend or toss out your entire wardrobe.
Instead, just start. Put one foot in front of another and rememberβeven if you have no time for decluttering, you can begin by reducing what you’re bringing into your life. This is actually the easiest way to get started with minimalism, and it takes no time at all. (In fact, it actually saves you time and money!)
RECOMMENDED READING: Here are 20 simple things you can do to declutter and live minimally.
So to recap, the number one advice I would give anyone who wants to know how to be a minimalist is just get started!
Do one thing today to move you in the direction of your goal, and an easy place to begin is by downloading Mindful Decluttering, my free decluttering guide and workbook. You’ll learn step-by-step how I decluttered my home and life, and there’s even a troubleshooting guide for hard to declutter items.
Subscribe below and get your free copy instantly!
2. Stop shopping (beware the One Last Shop syndrome!)
Now that you’ve decided that you’re committed to being a minimalist, and you’re ready to take action today, there might still be one more thing standing in your way:
The One Last Shop syndrome.
The One Last Shop syndrome is a bit like binge eating before starting a new diet; you’re almost ready to get started with minimalism … but you just need to pick up a few things first.
I was SO guilty of this for so many years! For me, it was all about my wardrobe. I kept telling myself Iβd be ready to get started with minimalism once I found the perfect _______.
- the perfect pair of black trousers
- the perfect tan sandals
- the perfect chambray shirt
My list was neverending, but I think you get the picture. There were always a “few more” things I needed, and I was never ready to get started.
If youβre struggling with this too, I clearly understandβbut here’s what you need to know: The first step to living with less should never be buying a bit more.
Quality over quantity is part of minimalism, so I understand the desire to upgrade or replace a few things, but this isn’t the best place to begin. You need to become comfortable with owning and needing less first.
Also, be mindful of the ways perfectionism can sabotage your minimalist efforts. A good friend taught me that most people use perfectionism as a way of procrastinating.
There’s no such thing as the perfect little black dress, so stop looking. You’re better off directing your energy towards being happy with what you already have.
RECOMMENDED READING: Do you struggle with shopping for clothes? Learn how to stop buying clothes you never wear.
3. Decide how you’re going to dispose of the stuff you declutter
Your next “how to be a minimalist” tip is to plan what to do with your excess stuff before you declutter!
Now, I’ll be honest with you and tell you that I didn’t do this when I first got started with minimalism. I was so excited after finally overcoming the above hurdles that I just wanted to build on that momentum. I filled trash bag after trash bag with unwanted stuff … and then two things happened.
First, I felt overwhelmed about what to do everythingβso I ended up doing nothing. Those big black bags of stuff sat in my guest bedroom and the boot of my car for months.
This put a huge damper on my enthusiasm, and in the end, I chose the quick and easy route to downsizing. I sold a few things, but most stuff ended up at a local charity shop or, even worse, in the dumpster.
This might not sound like a big deal, but I’ve since learned that many charity shops are overwhelmed with donations. A lot of stuff is not resold locally.
Instead, it ends up in landfills or is sold in bulk overseas, which can be destructive to the textile industry in developing economies. (I recommend reading more about what happens to your donations and the afterlife of your donated clothes. It’s an eye-opener!)
So what’s a better solution?
When you’re getting started with minimalism, a good place to begin is by researching the best places to donate your goods.
Different charities are better equipped to handle different donations, and they also have varying needs. By putting in a little extra time to research your donations (instead of just dropping eight bags at your local Goodwill) you can make sure your stuff is reaching the people who need it most.
Here are a few helpful resources:
- Check out this list for ideas: Where to Donate Your Stuff: 101 Places Your Clutter Can Do Good (USA based)
- If you’re in the UK, this looks like a good resource.
- If you’re in Australia, check out Givit (a non-profit that acts as a charity “matchmaker” so your donations go to the people who need them most.
Regardless of what you decide, making a plan ahead of time will help you get started. It reduces overwhelm (you make a decision once instead of agonising over and over again), which means you’re more likely to follow through with your plans, and you won’t end up with bags of stuff you don’t know what to do with! (I can’t tell you how many people tell me they have this problem!) Also, you’re more likely to make responsible decisions.
I know this feels like a lot of extra work, but I promise it’s worth it. If you want to be a minimalist, make time to think about your exit plan. And if anything, it will definitely make you stop and think twice about what stuff you bring into your life in the future!
4. Don’t make it all about “stuff”
We’ve been talking a lot about decluttering, and it’s what most people focus on when they’re first getting started with minimalism.
I get it. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement, and it’s tempting to judge your progress by the number of trash bags you’ve hauled off to Goodwill. But here’s the thing: just like a healthy lifestyle is not about dieting, minimalism is not about decluttering.
Of course, decluttering is one piece of the puzzle, but if you stop there, you’re missing the point.
First of all, owning too much stuff is often a symptom of a bigger problem that needs addressing. If you declutter without addressing the underlying issues, itβs very easy to end up accumulating more stuff all over again (the decluttering equivalent of a yo-yo diet!).
Next, it’s important to realise that owning less is not a goal in and of itself. Instead, minimalism is a tool to help you create a life you love. You’re getting rid of the stuff that doesn’t matter to create time, money, energy and space for the things that do.
What this means is that doing the inner work and cultivating a minimalist mindset is just as important (if not more) than decluttering your closet.
Ask yourself: What are your values? What do you really want out of life? What are you creating space for? If you can’t answer these questions, then you’ll never fully experience the benefits of minimalism.
5. Stop judging yourself and others
Finally, when you’re getting started with minimalism, the first thing you need to “declutter” is judgementβof yourself and of other people.
Let’s talk about yourself first.
Decluttering is hard because it means facing up to hundreds if not thousands of mistakes. More than likely, you’ll realise you wasted a lot of money on things you’ve never even used. This can be painful, and it’s enough to make you throw in the towel before you’ve even begun.
Trust meβformer shopaholic hereβso I understand! I can’t tell you how much time I’ve spent beating myself up for stupid purchases over the years.
But you know what? That kind of harsh self-judgement got me nowhere. All it made me want to do was shop more (to dull the pain I was feeling) or to give up.
Instead, what helped was learning to practise self-kindness. I let go of the anger I felt towards myself and learned to view my mistakes as lessons instead. This made a huge difference in how I approached not only decluttering but also life in general.
Also, when you’re getting started with minimalism, you need to be careful about judging other people.
There will come a point where you “get” minimalismβyouβve downsized your stuff, and youβre starting to think mindfully about your lifeβand when this happens, it’s tempting to judge everyone else.
It’s not always intentional; sometimes you’re just excited about how your life has changed, and it’s hard to understand why everyone else isn’t on board too! But either way, being judgemental is unkind and unproductive (especially if you’re trying to get your family on board with minimalism).
Instead, become an advocate for minimalism by living your life to the fullest. Let others learn how to become a minimalist by watching your example. Encourage, but donβt preach. Inspire, but donβt judge.
RECAP: How to become a minimalist
To recap the most important things I know about how becoming a minimalist:
- Begin by getting started; take the leap, and don’t procrastinate. The time to start living your best life is now.
- Even when you’re too busy to declutter, you can always control what you allow into your life. Stop shoppingβand you don’t need one last thing to get started!
- Think about what happens to your stuff when it leaves your home.
- Cultivate a minimalist mindset and invest in self-reflection. This is SO IMPORTANT and an often overlooked part of being a minimalist.
- Be kind to yourself and others. Don’t beat yourself up about the pastβjust choose to do better next time.
How To Declutter Like a Minimalist + Other Resources
How to be a minimalist (THE ULTIMATE CHECKLIST)
Do you like checklists? If you’re still feeling overwhelmed about how to become a minimalist, I wrote this step-by-step minimalist checklist to help you get started! The checklist is broken into three parts:
- Preparing For Minimalism: The Foundations
- Creating the Habit of Minimalist Living
- Building A Strong + Sustainable Minimalist Lifestyle
It’s everything I wish I knew ten years ago! Or you can check out these minimalist challenges for a few fun ways to experiment with minimalism.
How to be a minimalist with clothes (RESOURCES)
I’m specifically mentioning how to be a minimalist with clothes because I know that for many women, owning too many clothes is what inspires them to seek out minimalism. (This was definitely the case for me!)
I’ve written extensively on the topic because I know how hard it can be. Here are a few posts that will help you simplify your closet and dress with less.
- 20 Minimalist Wardrobe Tips: How to Have a Minimalist Closet
- How to Create a Personal Uniform + Simplify Your Style
- A Simple Guide to A Simple Wardrobe
How to be a minimalist with kids (GUIDE)
Can you be a minimalist with kids? Of course! Remember, minimalism is not a race to see who can live with the fewest things! Instead, it’s about finding alignment and that sweet spot that is just enough for you and your family.
If you want to learn more about how I live in a 660-square-foot apartment with my husband and two small children, check out my helpful guide to minimalism with kids.
How to live like a minimalist (FURTHER READING)
I believe that minimalism isn’t something you check off your to-do list. Instead, it’s a lifestyle that answers the question: “How can we have more of what matters and less of what doesn’t?” If this interests you, here are a few articles about pursuing a minimalist life.
- A Minimalist Approach to Life: 5 Principles I Swear By
- How to Live A Minimalist Life (A Complete Blueprint)
- How To Find Simplicity in Life: 20 Minimalist Living Tips
How to declutter like a minimalist (TIPS + RESOURCES)
Finally, minimalism is about more than declutteringβbut decluttering is obviously a powerful part of the process. If you need some help, here are a few posts that will help you declutter like a minimalist.
- What To Do When Youβre Overwhelmed By Clutter
- 10 Simple Decluttering Tips For When You Feel Stuck
- 8 Tips That Will Help You Find Motivation to Declutter
- Where to Start Decluttering Your Home (5 Quick + Easy Ideas)
Do you agree or disagree with this list? Do you have anything to add or any resources to share? If so, let me know in the commentsβIβd love to hear from you! x
Hi Jen,
This post on minimalism is very informative and educative.
It’s an eye and wisdom opener to me because of the omni benefits of minimalism.
Indeed,minimalism therapy cuts across all spheres of life.
I’m now an apostle,advocate and ambassador of minimalism.
Thank you for the great post.
My sincerest regards.
Chika Nwankwo
Hello Jen! Such a great read! I too am into minimalism and if I look back at it, I was a minimalist at heart since a very early age. I wore the same pants that I loved, no matter what others would think and I really never enjoyed living in a crowded space. These days, if I have clutter around me, I feel like I can’t even think straight. Maybe I was born for this! Haha. Thank you for your thoughts! Much love! π
One of the things that I’m working on is decluttering my email inbox. For one thing, seeing all those unread promotional emails gets exhausting! Then if I do open one, there’s the possibility that the marketing schemes will get to me, and make me long for that thing that they assure me will make my life easier.
So as I see them, I unsubscribe, and then delete the old emails from that sender. I used to be all about freebies (so I got on a Lot of email lists), but I’ve come to realize that free doesn’t always mean useful or valued. I’m a work in progress, but at least it’s progress!
I’m also going to hold a clothing swap with all my closet clean-out. π
So agree, I have the same challenge with my email account
This blog post is great! However, as someone who is trying to discard responsibly, I have found thatβs actually one of the things that throws off my momentum. I donβt just dump stuff off at Goodwill, but I realized that I have to sort of dump otherwise I get OBSESSED with making sure each item goes where it is supposed to and then nothing gets done. So I just wanted to add that here if someone else is also allowing that to stop their progress.
Hmm, that’s a good point Emily! It’s a tough one and I think it’s about balance. Of course, it’s ideal if we could all dispose of our things as sustainably as possible but if it doesn’t happen … it doesn’t happen. We’re all just doing the best we can and learning to own/consume less is a huge step forward anyway. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Cheers Jen π
I feel the same way. Things tend to be put in very specific piles and before I know it there is more clutter now than before because of the obsession of where it should go! Something that could help is asking your friends or family to come by and pick up anything they like. Otherwise I don’t know what to do in the situation because most of the time I just give up and give everything to charity.
This is my issue also. I think trying too hard to seek out the perfect place puts me in a tailspin and then the stuff ends up in my car for weeks!!!
Thank you for this post. Starting my journey as a minimalist I have felt the same way. I will also do more research about disposing of my unwanted clutter (thanks for the above sites) because I thought I already was being sustainable by using op shops but I can put more thought into which ones. Living with intention and having my room be a place that is calming not cluttered is the goal. Minimalism for the win!Love your work and look forward to hearing more about your journey.
Hi Stephanie, thank you so much for your kind words!! They really mean a lot to me π
I’m so glad you found this post helpful and all the best to you! xx Jen
I read this for the second time as a suggestion from someone I found from Pinterest. I also found this website on Pinterest. In getting down to cleaning, I think being a minimalist helps encourage the process. I have been wanting to downsize but, maybe, I have just decided that I’m a minimalist, and that just sparks a total new concept!
HI Kathleen, thank you so much for reading! And I definitely encourage you to explore minimalism and see if it’s right for you. It’s so much more than decluttering – for me, it was a whole new way of thinking and it changed my life π You might find this post interesting, it explores what minimalism really means (to me and to my readers) https://www.simplyfiercely.com/what-it-really-means-to-be-a-minimalist/. Thank you again for reading – all the best! xx Jen
Loved this post, thank you!
The “one last shop” is often what has held me back before, as well as not wanting to give up sentimental things. But what I’ve begun to realize is that if I just take the time to sort through my wardrobe and pare it down to what I really love, I don’t really need to go out and buy anything else. So starting there has been so helpful for me, as you mentioned with talking about learning how to live with less first.
I loved #4 as well. I would get frustrated with my stuff and think about minimalism for that reason, but what actually encouraged me to take real steps with it was seeing the impact of being intentional with my time, and how that could affect my freedom and flexibility in life. It impacted me so much that it has become a general theme of my own new blog.
Thanks again for the encouragement!!
I am a newbie and just the thought of going through all of my things and disposing of them is making me feel better already….already started and enjoying the journey…:-) x
Hi Geri! Letting go of things that weight you down is definitely one of the best feelings ever! Congrats on your decision to get started and thanks for stopping by π
I really needed to read this today, thank you!
I’m just starting out on my minimalist journey, I’ve already had one big declutter and massively downsized my wardrobe but I keep thinking “What more do I need to be doing? I am missing important things out and not doing it properly?” So number 4 is really helpful. Going off to read the suggested links.
Thanks again!
Hayley x
Hi Hayley! I’m so sorry for the very slow response, but I’m so glad you found this helpful. It’s definitely easy to get caught up wondering if you’re “doing it right” but just remember the end result will look different for everyone. As long as you feel like you’re being honest with yourself about what matters in YOUR life, you’re on the right track. Thanks again for stopping by – I really appreciate it! xo
This is a great post — and very liberating. Thank you.
How would you say your minimalist mindset has influenced your blogging? I find myself getting sucked into an endless list of “things I should be doing to have a more successful blog” (posting daily, guest posting, more original images, more social media, more, more, more…). Would love your thoughts!
Hi Kate! Thanks for your kind words about my post – I really appreciate it! βΊοΈ
And it’s so funny you should ask me that question right now … it’s like you’re reading my mind! I’m actually working on a post that will address this in part.
To be 100% honest, for the most part I’ve been completely un-minimalist in how I work on my blog; like you, I feel constant pressure to be creating more, posting more, etc, etc!
But right now I’m trying to change that. I don’t have as much free time lately and I also have a few big projects planned – so I’m being forced to step back and reevaluate, whether I want to or not!
One thing that has really helped me recently to is to constantly ask myself what my big picture goal is – and then I have to look at everything on my to do list and pick the top things that will get me there and just focus on those. It’s not easy (a little voice inside is always crying out haha) but I’m slowly getting there!
Thank you again for stopping by and good luck with finding your own balance. We’ll all get there eventually! x
Thanks for your reply! The reminder to look at the big picture is helpful. Always. Maybe tell me again in the post you’re working on π
I’m curious what your “big picture” looks like. I have an idea from from poking around the site, but it’s always interesting to hear the idea behind the reality. (And on the other side of it, I’m pretty sure my overall intentions are often different from what shows up on my site — like my work wants to go somewhere other than where I can consciously plan.)
All that to say, looking forward to that post!
Hey Kate! I just realised I never replied to this – whoops!
I actually frame my ‘big picture’ by thinking about the small picture and what I want my everyday life to be like. I want to wake up feeling refreshed, find time to reflect and recharge, do meaningful work, explore and learn new things, and spend time with the people I love! I try not to focus on big goals and instead look for little things I can do to bring my life into alignment π
Thanks Judy! βΊοΈ
Spot on!
Minimalism is definitely a personal choice and journey, excellent point. As with most endeavors, fear holds us back and thinking we have to do it this or that way – just gets in the way! Sooner or later we figure what works best for us.
I totally agree π
Thank you for the shoutout! π I like your first tip especially. There is so much minimalism around that looks the same – neutral colors, stark interiors – which I happen to love, but it’s okay to love color and consider yourself a minimalist! It can look like anything.
You’re welcome! Your blog is such an inspiration to me so I try and share it whenever I can βΊοΈ
I’m one of those neutral minimalists too, but I totally agree – minimalism can be bright or however anyone wants it to be!
It’s so true! Just start. It doesn’t have to be perfect right away… or ever. Just work on better.
Definitely Julie! I think your comment applies to so many things in life, not just minimalism!! βΊοΈ
This is a really beautifully written post on a fabulous blog. Your wise words about the “one last shop” are just what I needed to hear today. Thanks very much.
Hi Jennifer! Thank you for your kind words and I’m glad my “one last shop” advice resonated with you. This was probably my biggest hurdle as well … it sounds like such a simple thing but it was really quite tough in practice! Best of luck on your minimalist journey and thank you for taking the time to comment xx
Love how you put resources to learn more and take action after each step. So many to look over! Your words were also nonjudgmental and with the right tone that could appeal to a non-minimalist (instead of scaring them away from this path!). Thanks, Jennifer, I’ll be sharing this soon!
I’m so glad that my tone came across that way! One thing I try and be really conscious of with this blog is to not judge or preach to anyone about minimalism, but I’m not always 100% sure I’m successful, so your feedback is a big relief. Thanks for reading Daisy x
I love number one. I have just started my journey towards minimalism but I have a few collections that mean a lot to me, and that I have no intention of parting with. I love that there are no rules and that my minimalism will be unique to me. I love where you say “minimalism is about living with intention, it’s about being mindful of what you allow into your life” Thanks for this great post.
Thanks Jaqueline! That definition of minimalism is pretty important to me too. I appreciate you stopping by and taking time to comment βΊοΈ
Hi Jen! What a super useful post you’ve written here! π
I don’t know a lot about minimalism, so this post was very insightful. You’ve explained minimalism really well. And I love how you lay down the action steps of how to get there (and how not to). Thanks for this! π
Thanks for your kind words Wendy! Not everyone will agree, but this is how minimalism plays out for me π