Lately, on my internet wanderings, I’ve been noticing that most conversations about minimalism are turning into lists of things you can declutter. (Goodbye blender, spare phone charger, and college textbooks!!)
Now don’t get me wrong, I believe decluttering your home is obviously a big part of embracing minimalism—but I can’t help but feel that that part of the conversation is missing.
I believe minimalism is less about the number of things you own and more about intentional thinking; it’s about considering the purpose and value something (physical possessions, ideas, or even people) brings into your life and then being intentional about what you choose to keep.
When I first started to discover minimalism, I felt like this was something that was talked about a lot but as minimalism has become more mainstream (with the popularity of books about KonMari) … I wonder if it’s losing part of its soul?
Or perhaps this is only what the mainstream media is focusing on, but regardless, it can’t hurt to share a different kind of decluttering list—a list of things to declutter that aren’t things.
Instead of physical decluttering, I’m looking at ideas and mindsets that aren’t contributing to my life and could use letting go.
15 THINGS TO DECLUTTER (THAT AREN’T THINGS)
Before jumping into the list, I wanted to make two quick points:
- I’m still working on A LOT of the things on this list and to be honest, I’m writing this for myself as much as my readers. Life is a work in progress!
- Not everything on this list makes sense for everyone. Please don’t view this as an authoritative “master list” (or as my attempt to write one); instead, my intention is to inspire you to think outside the box with minimalism and to consider other aspects of your life that may require a bit of decluttering.
On that note, I’m sure there are a ton of things I’ve left off this list, so if you have any ideas you’d like to share please feel free to add them in the comments!
Sidenote: While we’re on the topic of decluttering…
I know this post is about decluttering ideas and mindsets BUT if you do need help with physical stuff, then Mindful Decluttering is for you! (Post continues below)
Mindful Decluttering is a free guide and workbook, where I share step-by-step exactly how I decluttered my home and life (and spoiler alert: it started with a mindset change!).
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I can’t tell you how many nights I’ve spent stressed to near tears because I’ve had some sort of project or chore that I really, really wanted to finish before going to sleep – even though there was absolutely no reason it couldn’t just be left to the next day.
Yet for some reason, I’d created a self-imposed deadline that was causing me ridiculous stress. If you’ve ever caught yourself in the same boat, join me in just letting go.
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“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt
We all know this one. It’s a lazy habit; let’s be intentional in breaking it.
A GOAL WEIGHT OR SIZE
Instead of focusing on an arbitrary number, chose to focus on feeling healthy and well. Healthy living is easier when it’s about feeling good instead of battling the scales.
Have you ever had that “I’ve been so busy working all day but somehow I’ve done nothing” feeling?
Yep. Me too and we can thank multitasking for creating lots of busyness minus productivity. The alternative? Try slowing down, doing one thing at a time, and being mindful about the task at hand. (I’ve been trying block scheduling lately and it’s really been working for me.)
Perfect isn’t real; it’s an illusion and it’s holding you back. Progress over perfection every time!
FURTHER READING: Check out my friend Wendy from Ditch Perfect, – she has a free workbook to help you let go of perfectionism – or check out this guest post she wrote for us, sharing 10 truths every perfectionist should know.
[tough love] Stop believing you’re trapped. If you’re not happy with your life, acknowledge that you are in control. You may not be able to change all the circumstances of your life, but you can always choose your reaction and start taking steps in a new direction.
GUILT ABOUT SELF CARE
If you feel guilty or in any way negative about making time to take care of yourself, please stop and let it go. Practising self-care is important because it creates a strong foundation (YOU!!) for everything else you want to do in your life.
RELATED POST: 12 Practical Self Care Tips (How I make self care work in my real life!)
BLAMING OTHERS FOR YOUR MISTAKES
We know this, right? But boy is it hard to remember in the heat of the moment. I’m trying to learn the power of “pause”; to stop for a moment and think before I react, giving myself time to accept responsibility for my own actions.
WAITING TO BE HAPPY
Stop waiting for a new job, a new month, or a new boyfriend to make you happy. You aren’t waiting, you’re making excuses. Make the decision to start living and loving life today.
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THE GLORIFICATION OF BUSY
Busy does not equal better.
If you find yourself complaining (or boasting) about being busy, stop.
If you’re too busy to do what’s important to you, look at your priorities.
If you have downtime, enjoy it without feeling guilty.
ANY DEFINITION OF SUCCESS THAT DOES NOT SERVE YOU
Define your own version of success. Create your own standards and build a life that makes you feel good (and stop worrying about how it looks to everyone else.)
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Learn to accept compliments with grace, instead of responding with a self-deprecating joke. (Yes, you do look nice today, and no – it’s not the flattering lighting.)
OBSESSING OVER THINGS YOU CAN’T CHANGE
I know this isn’t easy (I’m still putting some serious work into this one) but I truly believe that one of the greatest things we can learn in life is how to let go of what we can’t change. (Goodbye: replaying things in our head, constant obsessing, and unnecessary stress.) If you’re not sure how to start with this, try meditation.
ANGER + GRUDGES
When you’re angry with someone, deal with the issue and then move on. If you’re struggling, ask yourself what’s more important—the issue or the relationship. (And if the answer is the issue, then perhaps you should move on from the relationship.)
Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
SELF LIMITING BELIEFS
And finally, let go of any thoughts that begins with “I could never …”
For a long time, I believed I could never get out of debt, or end my first marriage, or start a blog that people actually read.
But guess what? I learned that I’m brave and capable of more than I thought and you are too. Say goodbye to any thoughts (or anyone) that tell you otherwise.
What ideas or mindsets could use ‘decluttering’ in your life? Let me know in the comments – I’d love to add to this list! x
photo credit: Vladimir Kudinov // Used with permission